In conversation with friends today I was reminded of my own journey. I was reminded of what I had to let go of to get to where I wanted to be.
In my 20’s I realized I was blaming my experience with my father as the thing responsible for my life so I booked a flight to Puerto Rico to see him and make amends. In my 30’s I created the opportunity to bring my father, my brother and my mother together for a conversation they had been waiting for years to have (it was the first time I had dinner with my parents together). Now in my 40’s, my father and I road tripped all over Puerto Rico last year like two old buddies and it’s a trip I will make every year.
I realized I never planned any of this. What I did do is take the first step into the unknown and the uncertainty. I consistently stepped into the arena with no guarantee of what would happen because I was certain about one thing: I wanted to let go of the things that were no longer serving me (my thoughts, habits, my should’s and judgments).
I want to ensure everything is left in the arena, where I can at least say that I used my time in the best way possible. Don’t waste time in the stands judging and analyzing. That’s not where life happens. It happens in the moments of facing your fears, facing the uncertainties and loving fiercely. That’s the gold. And it’s the only thing that matters.
© David Medina